Adab: how we behave

Adab means good manners. Here is what we ask of everyone; accounts that ignore it are closed.

• Grown-ups only. You must be 18 or older. Every woman is an adult, and nobody under 18 may ever be described, imagined or requested.
• Respect her culture and yours. Jokes about aunties are welcome; contempt for anyone's religion, caste or background is not.
• Consent is everything. No pressure, no force, no one who cannot say yes.
• Some things stay out. Family members, animals and real people never belong in a romantic or sexual story.
• Be decent. No threats, harassment or sharing anyone's private details.
• She is not your doctor or lawyer. For real problems, please talk to a real professional; in an emergency call your local emergency number.

If a message crosses these lines, it does not go through and she will steer the chat elsewhere.